Want to help them change up their behaviors without all of the nagging?
Try catching them being good!
Sometimes as parents we get so frustrated with all of the little stuff that our kids do that is annoying, upsetting or just wrong that we fail to recognize the good times. Negative consequences may stop certain behaviors temporarily but only by using positive reinforcement, by highlighting, recognizing and reinforcing kids for making the right choices, will a llasting, transformative effect take hold.
So try taking just a moment to catch your child performing a good act, no matter how small. Quietly sit and observe your child. If you see them share something without being asked, put something away or start their homework without any comments from you, validate their behavior with just a couple words.
"Love it when you get yourself started on your homework"
"You're such a big boy when you share your toys with Marcy"
"Wow, your room looks great since you put your things away!"
You don't need to make a big thing of it. Just make sure that your child knows that you caught them doing the right thing. Tuck them in that night reminding them how happy they make you when they make good choices. Kids thrive on parental approval. Use your words wisely as you encourage your child to continue their positive behavior and enjoy catching your kids being good!