Sorry for not having kept up with my blogs lately. I have been working on a new project - writing fiction. However, I didn’t want you to think that I had given up on my blogging for Project -Parenting all together.
Any of you who regularly follow my blogs know that I always say that any positive conversation between a parent and a child can begin by reading a good book together. And faithful to my word I wanted to share a new book with you today. However, I wanted to broaden my scope this time.
Over the past couple of months I’ve spoken to so many friends whose kids are either away at college or will be next fall. And some shared how bogged down with worries their children appear to be. It’s hard to be the parent at home wondering how your child will handle the accelerated academic and social demands of college. And while the problems kids share may seem manageable to us as parents, it’s sometimes hard for our kids to see as clearly.
What Do You Do With A Problem? By Kobi Yamada is a great book to share with children of all different ages. Kobi explains how problems make us stronger and more capable because they “challenge us, shape us and push us.” He points out the value of a problem and how we can become better people as we learn to face them head on. This is a tough concept for most adults, let alone a child. But Yamada’s words and illustrations help readers to understand that problems can continue to grow in size until we turn and face them. He makes solving even the biggest problem - doable.
How would I use this book for different ages?
* Tuck the book in their suitcase as they head off to college.
Include a note: Can’t wait to see you to discover all of your opportunities. We believe in you!
* Have it waiting on your child’s bed when they return from school this summer.
So proud of how well you turned your problems into opportunities. Way to go!
And although your college kid may laugh at you for giving them a kid’s book or for writing a personal note in it - no child is too old or too young to be told that you believe in them. Let your kids talk with you, share their fears, their successes and their challenges. You are making a memory they won’t forget. And you are also enforcing your belief in your child.
School Aged Child:
Read it to them tonight and then talk about any big problems they had this year in school. How did they handle it? Can they unwrap an opportunity that they didn’t see before? Is there anything brewing now that you could help them with?
Let this book open doors for meaningful conversations between you and your child.
“When I got face-to-face with it, I discovered something. My problem wasn’t what I thought it was. I discovered that it had something beautiful inside.”