Sometimes making the right choice is hard for a child. And when they make the wrong one, their world can quickly fall apart. Help your kids to understand that choosing the right way to respond usually requires that they stop, think and then act. If you find your little one struggling with a choice or spiraling after making the wrong one, give them some options. Draw 3 boxes, balloons or any other shape. Label each object with an alternate way in which they might respond. Talk through why one choice might be better than another and encourage them to make a choice. Instead of hitting my brother I could have #1 walked away, #2 told him to leave me alone, #3 asked an adult for help.
Here are three books that you might use to open up a discussion about making good choices:
Making Good Choices: A Book about Right and Wrong By: Lisa O. Engelhardt
Learning to do right is a lifelong endeavor and children need the help of adults along the way.
The Sandbox (Making Good Choices) A Book About Fairness By: Don Rowe
"When Mrs. Smith asks Tim and Johnny to let Kylie join the game they are playing in the sandbox, they do not want to include her."
Talk and Work It Out By: Cheri J. Meiners
"What’s the best way to solve problems between people? By talking them over and working them out. It’s never too soon for children to learn the process of peaceful conflict resolution. This book distills it into clear, simple language and supporting illustrations"